Don’t rely on someone else to tell you what kind of person someone is. Rely on your OWN experience with them. If they were always there to help, listened intently to your problems, and if they couldn’t help,tried to refer you to someone who could, then, to you, they were a good person.
If they were sympathetic and concerned when you were sick, had cancer, did what they could for you, then THAT is the basis on which to judge them, because that is the mark of a friend.
I’ve seen people in the past who were attacked under a pretext about their character, but found out the person attacking them, was actually jealous of them. This was in elementary school, but we had a beautiful girl transfer into our school. One of the more aggressive girls got it in for her because she was jealous of the girl’s looks. The bully went about a campaign of turning everyone against her, both boys and girls.
I alone became her friend, and was told I should not be her friend, as it would be bad for my image or popularity. I said, I don’t care. She is a good person, and is being persecuted
unfairly, and I could not “go along to get along”. Right is right, and I could not live with myself if I had participated in this persecution.
She eventually transferred to another school, but the last day, she took me aside and told me how much she appreciated me standing by her. I meant a lot to me…and is one of the
things I remember most from my childhood….because your childhood chases who you are as an adult…and the other kids, who were afraid to speak out in her defense, should carry that stain in their soul til the day they die.
Right is right…no matter if you get persecuted for it or not. I had rather have one person to call a friend who would always stand by me, never betray me, no matter how many were against me.
” Betrayal spread by rumors is like cancer. It starts with one single source, spreads like wildfire, and before you know it, has metastasized to the whole body. Like a cancer cell,
it can be defeated easily when it starts with just one person telling lies.”
“It was a mistake, you said. But the cruel thing was, it felt like the mistake was mine, for trusting you.” — David Levithan
“Betrayal is like grabbing the handle of a hot cast iron skillet…it hurts, and it
makes you very reluctant to put yourself in such a situation that it can happen again.” ~Anon99
“People betray you behind your back, because, like the cowards they are, they are afraid to do it in your face.” Unknown
“Trust can take years to build, but only a second to break.” — Unknown
“When you betray somebody else, you also betray yourself.” — Isaac Bashevis Singer
“There is no greater blessing than a family hand that lifts you from a fall; but there is not lower curse than a family hand that strikes you when you’re down.” — Wes Fessler
“One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though … betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope.” — Steven Deitz
“It’s particularly hard to take being stabbed in the back close to home. There’s always a feeling of betrayal when people of your own group oppose you.” — Catharine MacKinnon
“Once someone betrays a supposed “best friend”, no one should trust them…because, it becomes easier every time you do it” ~Anon99